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By: Teddy Shabba on Wed May 30, 2007

Reviewers Rating 5/5 Stars

Question From A reader: I've been seeing this girl for about two months or so in a long distance relationship. It's gone absolutely fantastic, so I have started seeing her exclusively every weekend.

She works nights six days per week, with Thursday being her only day off. Every single Thursday, the exact same thing happens; she disappears.

It goes like this: I usually call her or she calls me when I am done working at around 6 PM, but on Thursdays when I call her, the phone will not go to voicemail, instead she will answer and then hang up (that is what it seems like). And when I try to call back the phone is turned off and I won't hear from her until the next day.

This happens every Thursday.

The first couple of times I shrugged it off because we were just dating.

Am I off base here for being suspicious or is it painfully obvious that I am being played like a fiddle?

Answer:

One of the biggest challenges with a long distance relationship is the unknown factor.

If you know she isn't at work and her phone is off there is that potential of her seeing someone else.

The amount of trust required for a long distance relationship to work is greater than most people can handle.

Is she playing you like a fiddle?

Maybe, maybe not; yet the truth is the only thing you can control is your weekends with her.

If you really are into this woman and want to make it work as a long distance relationship, perhaps you should consider letting her call you on Thursdays if she wants and avoid the no response from her period.

She has consistently not answered the phone on Thursdays which means she is busy or doesn't want to talk to you on Thursdays for a reason she chooses to keep private.

Asking her to reveal what it is before she is ready will either ruin the relationship because she will not reveal it to you or she will simply lie about it if it is truly something wrong on her part.

Either that or break up with her so you don't have to worry about being played like a fiddle as the only real way to stop that kind of fiddle from playing.

Teddy Shabba is a Dating Coach for Men who has a daily newsletter that provides you with a wealth of information on how to be more successful with women. You can sign up for the Teddy Shabba Dating Advice Newsletter for Men now.